My mother, in her eighties, is more productive than I am in late mid-life. I am reminded of a friend of mine’s comment on meeting my grandmother, my mother's mother, who was in her eighties at the time – he said that he hoped that he could be that clear minded when he was her age. Then he corrected himself. He said that he wished he were that clear minded now!
In the last three years my mother has co-written, produced
and directed four plays, each of which has been presented in a one night stand
at her local theater. The previous three
were offered late on weeknights and travelling to her city two hours away and
then back after a performance during the school year was daunting and we never
managed it. This year, however, the
production was a Sunday matinee, so the reluctant wife and I were gladly able
to make the trip.
Mom has been working with a theater group – they have sort
of become an informal company – during this time. They have worked on themes of plays that have
struck their fancy. This time, the local
arts center that houses their productions was going to be hosting a display
about a housing development that a Frank Lloyd Wright enthusiast built in the town
in the 1960s. This is an architecturally
distinct neighborhood in a community that is, as a whole, divided between Olde New
England style – with early 1800s buildings and buildings built to look them
(including gas stations with cupolas required by the town zoning) and modern
suburban split levels. So the Frank Lloyd Wright inspired subdivision is a group of 20 or so homes that form a visually and even spiritually unique sub-community. The houses don’t have clear boundaries between the plots, one is circular and one is a tower and each of the rest are in their own way unique yet vaguely reminiscent of the others because
they have casement windows, parts that are underground, no gutters and
downspouts, and that Frank Lloyd Wright look. The theater group decided
to celebrate this community by creating a work that described who it was that Frank Lloyd
Wright was. As they pulled together
material to create the play, they read biographical material about Wright, but
much of it was focused on the women in his life, and the play emerged as a
description of the home makers who made the houses that Frank Lloyd Wright
lived within.
The play, then, included six characters – the four central
women in Wright’s adult life – his first wife, Catherine “Kitty”( Tobin) Wright,
second, Maude “Mimi” (Noel) Wright and third wife, Olga Ivanovna “Olgivanna” (Lazovich Milanoff)
Lloyd Wright and also the woman he lived with, Mamah Bothwick Cheney, who was
killed by their live-in cook, along with her children, while he was separated from
wife #1 – a newspaper reporter, and the voice of Wright himself, which came from
backstage. It was staged as a series of
monologues – each of the four women spoke twice – they went through in order –
and the newspaper man interacted with them while Wright offered editorial comments
– or pontificated. The style at first
felt like it might be stilted or preachy or too didactic, but as the play
settled in, it clearly became a play and the sense of anticipation – of wondering
what happened, what would happen, and why it all happened, emerged, but more importantly, the sense of a dramatic unfolding took place. We were in the presence of people whose lives mattered - people about whose lives we cared.
It is interesting to note that Wright was born about 13 years
after Freud and lived 20 years or so longer than Freud. While he lived in the US, they were born into
similar worlds, and worlds where the roles of women were quite similar. Wright’s first wife was every bit the
traditional wife, and played the traditional role that Freud’s wife did. Though she was educated – she was a social
worker as well as a socialite – she came across as terribly traditional in her
gender identification. She was portrayed
in the play as saying something like “Frank built the house that I lived in, he
made the furniture, and I found it no surprise that he designed the clothing
that I wore.” There was a sense that Wright, who was frequently absent, treated his first wife as an object to be
housed, furnished and clothed.
Of course Freud’s interests and Wright’s could not have been
more different. Freud was interested in
people – in their minds, in their products – their works of art and where they
came from, and in their psychological health.
Frank was interested in buildings – in architecture, which he took to be
the highest form of art. And he was not
particularly interested in the creature comforts of the people who lived in his works
of art – his homes are notoriously cold and drafty – those single pane casement
windows conduct the heat and the cold directly into the house – and Taliesin,
the home where his second lover died and his third and fourth wife lived, was
primitive, with only fireplaces to keep out the cold of the Wisconsin winters.
Wright connected with the second, doomed woman, when she and
her husband were clients of his. She and Wright, who had been having numerous brief affairs, became proponents of free
love, and she relied on the writings of a woman who was a spokesperson for the free
love movement to support her decision to leave her husband and Wright's to leave his
wife and children so that they could live together – they could not marry as
neither spouse would grant them a divorce.
At least as portrayed in the play, this woman was a more suitable match
for Wright, but was still quite traditional, while he was breaking architectural
boundaries and creating a novel visual style.
She felt, at least on stage, as a slight move forward from wife #1,
though Wright viewed her as more of an intellectual equal. And Wright seemed less than invested in her
(and her children) as individual people with particular minds than he might
have been – even more than he was interpersonally somewhat distant from his own
children.
This was an interesting period in which to have come of
age. In an earlier time, or at the same time
in Europe perhaps, he and woman #2 might have simply had an affair. But they made a bold and public break at a
time when divorce was still relatively novel and had a morally repugnant tone,
and they began to build lives together quite publicly – talking with the media
about the decisions that they made – publicizing their otherwise “private”
lives. This took a macabre turn when the
cook – who was I think from the Caribbean – set the house on fire and took an
axe to the family members as they fled, killing Mamah and two of her children
(Wright was away at the time). What the
cook’s motives were have never been clarified, though some have wondered whether
he was driven by moral qualms over the living arrangements – whether true or
not there was certainly plenty of room for a late Victorian public to feel that
some justice had been served by the deaths, justifying their own sense of
satisfaction at an event that otherwise would have appalled them.
Frank then got caught in a snare. Wife #2 sought him out by writing long, long
letters to him in the wake of the deaths at Taliesin, and he became enamored of
her – or perhaps more accurately, he became enamored of how enamored she
appeared to be of him. He was dazed by
her enough that he overlooked such things as her dependence on morphine – at least
long enough to marry her. Once married,
he reasonably quickly became aware of what a burden she was. The character, by the way, was one that was
clearly quite fun for the actress portraying her to play. She enjoyed that this histrionic woman turned
every little interaction into drama, and it was an actress’s dream to have a
part in which nothing could be too over the top – what a chance to act without
abandon!
The intriguing thing about the arc of this trio of women,
though, is that it seemed to prepare Frank for the final relationship of his
life. The final woman to waltz into his
life, wife #4, Olgivanna, was a dancer from Montenegro who had the mettle to
match the distant and brilliant Wright. I
am not certain of this, but the plot of the play, which borrows heavily from
novels tracing Wright’s wives, including one titled “The Women”, suggest that
Wright needed to learn that a woman could be a match – that love could occur
between two people with similar passions and with similar strengths.
Again, like Freud, Wright was the leader of a group of
people who learned their craft at his feet.
He was an acknowledged genius within his lifetime and exercised his
genius with impunity, treating lesser mortals with a certain amount of
disdain. Freud was able to stick with
his wife – apparently quite faithfully (though he had a very close relationship
with her sister who seemed more his intellectual equal and some have wondered
whether they may have had an affair).
Freud was deeply invested in his children (maybe too deeply – analyzing
his daughter Anna and helping her become the heir apparent in the family
business). He was deeply invested in his
work with women patients and became a clueless and sometimes problematic icon in
the development of a women’s movement toward equal footing with men.
At a time when, even in the privileged classes, women did
not have anywhere near the same opportunities as men for such things as getting
a good education, to expect equal relations between individuals so differently
prepared to become adults required a tremendous amount of romantic (meaning
fictional) support to work. Olgivanna was an accomplished artist in her own
right and she was able to manage the farm that was their home, to keep Frank’s
students in line, and to command the respect of those around her, including, I
believe, Frank himself.
My grandmother, the
one whom my friend noted was such a powerhouse, was raised by her father, who trundled her across lumber towns in the Pacific northwest and she watched as her father
engineered and built one lumbermill after another. As an adult, engineer friends marveled at her
ability to understand mechanical principles, yet she claimed never to have been
taught about fractions and decimals and therefore claimed to be mystified by
them. She ended up being a college
graduate, but she was an art history major – something for which she had great
passion – but her apparent native mathematical and engineering talents could
never have been tapped in the educational system available to her.
She, in turn, became the mother to my mother, whose training
was pushed towards the humanities in part because of prejudice and what kinds
of opportunities existed for women, though largely out of interest and aptitude. She became a theater director, which meant
someone who taught theater, and then her career was secondary to that of my
father, who was seen as the de facto bread winner. Perhaps because of that, her current
productivity is particularly impressive. Perhaps the
arc of her life has mirrored in some ways the arc of the lives of the privileged
through the first half of the last century and has led to a certain ownership
of her gifts and talents that is continuing to reap rewards later in her life.
What would Freud – or Wright – have made of this? I think that Wright came up against women of
greater and greater strength as his life developed – OK the strength of wife
number two was largely in her ability to be wacky, but that is a certain kind
of strength, one that women have relied on when all else has been denied them
for a very long time, and it may have taught Wright that you really want to
have the strength of women working with you, not against you. So find someone who can measure up, and he seems
to have, at least at the end (Perhaps Mamah did as well – their relationship
never had a chance to mature). Freud,
too, befriended and championed powerful women, including his daughter,
throughout his life. But it is also the
case that women have taken what Freud had to offer, including his misreadings
of women, and made them right – refusing to be cowed by a genius who had his
blind spots.
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