Shanthi Sekaran’s novel Lucky Boy is an easy read, even if it is long and
too artfully and self-consciously constructed to be engrossing. It tells
the tale of two women – Soli, a woman from absolutely nowhere Mexico running to
the United States for a better life – and Kavya – a first generation Indian
American woman married to Rishi – also a first generation Indian American. The novel
alternates between chapters describing Soli’s trek from Mexico towards the
United States and, inevitably, Berkeley, where her cousin lives with her cousin’s
two children, and chapters describing Kavya’s life, which includes working as a
cook for a sorority at UC Berkeley and trying, without luck, to become pregnant with Rishi.
The Lucky Boy of the title is Soli’s child – who is
conceived on the road to the US – perhaps through love and perhaps through rape
– both befall Soli on the way. It is
inevitable, for almost three hundred pages, that the lives of these two women
will intersect through Ignacio, the lucky boy that is born to Soli. While reading these pages I both considered
giving up on the book – it was pleasant enough but focused largely on telling
about the lives of these two women from an objective vantage point – I didn’t
feel like I was really getting much access to them – and I was convinced I
would not write about it. There was
little here of merit. That changed at
the moment Ignacio was born.
There is something very strange about having a child. It alters you (or at least it altered me) in
the most fundamental ways imaginable. I
was now connected to another human being in a way that I had never been
connected to anyone in my life before.
As I have mentioned before, talking with other parents, they get it –
but it is like a secret club – you have to have had a child to belong. Sekaran takes the reader through three very
different processes to achieve this result.
Soli’s experience of giving birth to the child she calls Nacho, Kavya’s
experience of choosing Ignacio to foster parent and hopefully to adopt, and
Rishi’s coming around to connecting with Iggy as his father, long after Kavya has given herself over to him. The description of each of these three very
different but parallel processes of attachment rung very true to me and each of
them were emotionally evocative in ways that I had not anticipated they would
be based on the writing to that point.
I cannot know if the powerful emotions evoked in me would be evoked in someone
who has not gone through the attachment process with a child. That attachment process, as exemplified by
Kavya and Rishi, does not have to be a birth process. I think that my sister went through a similar
experience as she became the aunt to my son, and I know that my friends who
have adopted describe a similar fundamental shift – a seeming movement in the
cosmos. Everything feels different as a
result of this attachment.
Sekaran uses the attachment of each of these people to this boy to play out the plot in the second half of the book. The attachment is the glue that holds the last half of the
book together. What that plot is does not, on some level,
matter. What matters is the glue and Sekaran's ability to describe it in such a way that I remember such silly things about my own attachment process as
hearing every love song on the radio as the song expressing the love of a
parent for a child – and avoiding watching television for a year because the
violent deaths of every person on every show depicting it were the deaths of
someone’s child – and that I remembered much more solemn things – the sense
that my life was no longer my own – that I was living, at least in part, very
much for someone else and that I could no longer treat my life with the same
casual disregard I once had done. And
it is this solemn attachment that drives the drama of the last half.
I am dismissive of the particulars of the drama, but
appreciate that they exist at this moment on another level. Despite my observations about my own sense of
attachment to my son in the immediate aftermath of his birth (and vestiges of
that still bind us together twenty years later), I found myself disconnected
from the immigration crisis and the forced separation of children from their
parents. I’m not sure what kicked in for
me during that process – how it was that I did suddenly become aware of the cruel implications of what we were doing – how it was that I somehow hadn’t known before at all either professionally (see my post about
Daniel Stern’s work) or personally (see the paragraph above) just how
devastating the impact of that separation would be on the infant and on the
parent.
This book, at times with too much detail, works hard to
humanize its protagonists. We cannot
dismiss Soli as an other - as someone essentially foreign to us, nor Kavya, nor Rishi.
I think we identify with them through something much more powerful than
the laboriously drawn descriptions that Sekaran provides – though the
background may be important. I think that we
connect with them through the descriptions of their reactions – the felt
experiences that they have in the context of having a child enter their lives
in the way this child enters into each of their lives. I think we would have had that experience
based on Sekaran’s ability to create within us the feelings that she is
attributing to her protagonists.
That said, I think that the long read is not wasted. We learn a lot about these three people,
imaginary though they may be. We also
learn about the experience of being both a documented child of immigrants and an undocumented
immigrant and we learn about the justice system, including the various
injustices that it metes out. But all of
this is ultimately in service of learning, once again, that it is the bonds of
attachment that connect us and that this boy – whom some might pity
based on all that befalls him – deserves to be considered lucky because of the
attachment that he has experienced with these three adults.
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