The other day, I was trying to figure out how to avoid the
big project I have been working on this summer and I picked up a slender little book
that it looked like I could read in about an hour. It wasn’t until I was finished with it (I
didn’t time it, but it couldn’t have taken more than two hours at most), that I
discovered that my reluctant sister had given it to me on my birthday more than
thirty years ago. In her inscription, in
addition to sending her love, she also warned me away from the movie starring
Anne Bancroft and Anthony Hopkins (something the book cover trumpets). I have no problem sending along her advice –
I’m sure it is wise counsel, but I must admit that I am so taken with the book
that I may be tempted, next time I need a diversion, to see if it is available.
84 Charing Cross is the address of a bookseller in London
that, sadly, my
quick google search informs me, is now at least partly a McDonald’s
restaurant. It was the place, in the days
before Amazon, when Helene Hanff, the (partial) author of the book ordered her
books. One could say it was the
precursor of Amazon, but that would be a grave injustice.
I was introduced to Amazon in 2008 or so by a fellow
academic who assured me that it was a tremendously easy and wonderful way to
get books quickly and efficiently. Who
knew what it would become?
Marks & Co., the bookseller at 84 Charing Cross Road, London,
was hardly quick but it was efficient in its own quirky manner. Miss Hanff did not communicate with them via
email, but by post from the upper west side of Manhattan, typing her missives
not into a screen, but through a manual typewriter onto sheets of, I’m sure,
quite thin paper that was sent in the mail, sometimes along with a few dollar
bills to cover the costs of the books.
And the books. Unlike
the book that I was holding in my hand – with a very light poster board cover
and thick pages of newsprint quality paper glued into a functional if not
elegant package – the books she ordered were lovely. They were on the thinnest of paper and bound
by the finest leather with true art work adorning the inside covers and gilt
lining the page edges. They were used –
with marginalia from previous owners and they opened to the places that the
last owner most visited, something that Miss Hanff treasured. She liked being guided by an unknown guide to the best spots.
The cover of my clunky paperback promises a “transatlantic
love affair by mail”. Well, that seems
to me to hint at a bodice ripping romance, even if the bodice is ripped only in
fantasy. This is no bodice ripper, but the teaser is an apt description. Miss Hanff does fall in love with Frank Doel (rhymes with the Christmas Noel), her primary correspondent at Marks & Co., but also with his wife and children and with
the other staff at the booksellers. And
the center piece of all of that love is the love of books – and with the real lived
experiences that those books bring.
A cursory read of the book
titles I have reviewed in these posts will clarify that I am in love with
fiction. Not so Ms. Hanff. She is invested in history. She wants to hear from those who have lived
that history- she loves diaries and memoirs.
Non-fiction is the stuff of her reading life – and her writing life –
she was an author who wrote for stage and screen – especially for The Hallmark
Hall of Fame. And this book is, then,
appropriately the actual correspondence between herself and her fellow lover of
books, Frank Doel (who, I believe, should be credited, along with a few others,
as co-author).
And what an interesting and intimate love affair it is. She idealizes him and the place that he works
and lives in – so much so that she never quite makes the trek, even though you
expect her to at any moment. Instead she
preserves it as a place she can visit in her mind – keeping it whole and
untrammeled. And we visit it with
her. I could smell the mustiness of the
book store that neither of us will ever visit as I read the letters that were written there.
But the intriguing thing to me is not Miss Hanff's idealization of Mr. Doel and the bookstore, but
the remonstrating that she engages in – the good spirited, clearly loving, but
also clearly critical tone she takes with him. He is someone whom she idealizes but also comes
ever so close to treating as her personal lackey. He is in her employ – and he is rigidly and
consistently proper in the best British manner – and this allows Miss Hanff, I think, to take
liberties.
Those liberties are invariably in the form of demanding from
him the level of service that she believes him capable of delivering. As caustic as her notes get, they are leavened both
by the quality of Miss Hanff’s writing and by the affection that her criticism
exudes. It has the tone of chiding
rather than scolding. She is railing at
him for being the very person that she loves.
And he, in his formal English manner, seems to take it in the spirit
that it is given. He is always working
to provide the best possible service.
Now it helps that she is also sending gifts – and emissaries
– friends who carry her good wishes across the seas. She is on the side of these people who have
been left bereft by the war. She is
embarrassed by the largesse that the Americans are bestowing on the Germans
while our English allies can’t, for the life of them, find a decent ham for Christmas. So when she sends a ham it demonstrates her
love. But the gifts are not intended to
balance out her bullying – for her criticism is not bullying – it is a very
deep form of affection. It is the
calling forth of the best that one can get from another person – and an appreciation
of who it is that they are.
So this correspondence is a lived record of a love – the kind
of love that the efficiencies of Amazon will never replace. For we love people, with all of their quirks
and all of the ways that their interacting irritate us. We love it that we can’t count on a used
bookseller to provide exactly what we want, but that what shows up sometimes
turns out to be better than what we would have ordered. The universe sometimes knows what we want
more than we ourselves do.
And perfection
is not what we want in a partner – six sigma be damned. It is clearly what we expect from Amazon, but from the people we love, we want responsiveness – we want someone who thinks
about us and knows us and gets who it is that we are – and who cares enough to
stay in touch both with who we are and with who we could be. And that allows us to muddle through – to bump
along – enjoying the bumps – while others speed past us on the smooth
superhighway of perfection. And it is an illusion - to those on that highway, including ourselves when we are there - that perfection will be a substitute for love. It isn't.
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